Yesterday evening an old friend called me. We went to high school together and we've kept in touch periodically since then. We chatted and caught up on old times and she mentioned that some day in the future they'd like to have kids, even though it's a big change to your life. I didn't really know what to say, because she was right. I just agreed, "It will change your life."
It is a huge change, but I couldn't put it into words. I'm not sure how to convey it to someone who hasn't experienced it. I also know that before I had kids I had NO IDEA! I knew that kids would change my life. I knew I'd have to give up so much stuff. I knew that my life would be different, but you just can't imagine how different. Even if you have a pretty good idea, you are still going to wake up one day and wonder what the hell happened to your life.
You'll struggle to remember the last time you went out to dinner and didn't have to worry about your toddler screaming and refusing to sit in the high chair. You won't be able to remember the name of the last movie you saw that didn't involve puppets or animation or some annoying singing guys.
You won't be able to remember the last time you got 8 hours of sleep or were able to leave the house without breast pads, a back pack, a sippy cup, some diapers and a change of clothes for each rug rat. If you're like me, you'll even struggle to remember how old you are, and the last time you took a shower with the door closed.
You'll look back at yourself before you had kids and laugh at some of the stupid things you said. ("MY kids will never do that!")
I always get a little peeved when I read posts like this where the parent feels the need to include a disclaimer about how great their life is now and how much they love their kids and how they wouldn't trade their kids for the world.
I think that is generally understood. Parents are human too, and it's OK to mourn for things lost and still rejoice in what you have. So, keep that in mind when I say this:
I miss my old life sometimes. I miss my husband and even though he's a great father, I miss him just being my husband. I miss having conversations that didn't involve spelling words out, and poop or sleep. I miss sleep. Oh, how I miss sleep.
I miss being seen as a woman, and not just a mom. I hate these 40 extra pounds. (OK- 50)
I miss being able to throw a small bag in the car and just going. Anywhere! The store, the movies, the beach, camping.
I miss going out to parties, going out on dates and staying up late, and then sleeping in.
Kids add a tremendous amount love and joy to your life, but they also add so much responsibility.
There are days where I don't think about ANY of the things mentioned above, and don't miss them at all. Then there are the days when I wish I had a time machine.
I'd go back to the past, and meet up with me in college. I'd tell myself to have a lot of fun before deciding to have kids. I'd tell myself to travel and go explore. Enjoy being a couple, and take the time to build your marriage on a strong foundation. Accomplish anything that will cause regret if left undone. Oh, and sleep in. A lot.
And when my past self asked my future self about having kids I'd simply say, "It will change your life."
Thursday, June 28, 2007
random
Ever since we were almost in a wreck last week, I'm a wreck when I'm driving. I'm very jumpy and anxious. I keep thinking that cars are going to hit us. It's terrifying to feel this way, but it's only in traffic, it's fine if there's just a few cars around. I'm hoping that it will pass shortly, it's good to be aware and a safe driver, but I don't want to be paranoid the whole time!
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I can't believe how excited I am that C & A are getting married. It's almost as good as when I got married - except better because I don't have to deal with MIL all over again. he he.
Sorry C - but I think this will take the focus off the boys for awhile, which is a welcome relief. Stay strong. ;)
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I can't believe how excited I am that C & A are getting married. It's almost as good as when I got married - except better because I don't have to deal with MIL all over again. he he.
Sorry C - but I think this will take the focus off the boys for awhile, which is a welcome relief. Stay strong. ;)
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
random
1 - We took our baptism class, but have yet to schedule the baptism. I really need to do that. I should be doing that instead of this. Really, I should get up right now and go do it.
2 - Looking at houses with D is an exhausting process. E X H A U S T I N G!!
He is getting on my nerves a little bit. It's not easy to do with kids in tow either. It will be a miracle if we ever find a house.
3 - Is it so wrong to want a decent sized kitchen? Every house we've seen except for ONE, whether brand new or 30 years old - has a SMALL kitchen. I want a big kitchen!!!
4 - I feel like I should really start potty training a little more. d will go if I put him on the potty, but never tells me he needs to go. Is he ready? Is he not ready?
Should I push it? I've gotten a few comments about his age and not being pt'd. booo.
He's only 2!! He won't be three for 9 more months. It's not like he's 6 or something. We have several friends his exact age, and they aren't potty trained either, so I guess there's no reason to push it.
5 - We got a web cam and we're attempting to get the boys' grandparents to get one and sign up for Skype, so we can all talk together online since they're so far away. They are all technologically challenged, so we'll see how it goes.
6 - I took a pregnancy test this morning because I've been feeling a bit "off." It was negative within the time limit. (Thank you!!) I left it on the counter and when I went to throw it away it has a very faint line where the positive would be. BUT, being that it's 4 hours later, I'm guessing it's negative. D made me order a large pack of those cheap internet pgncy tests, and thinks I should test once a week. I probably will, because I'm paranoid about getting pg while breastfeeding and not even knowing about it!
However, he thinks that because I'm breastfeeding, we're safe and he shouldn't have to take any precautions. Hmph. I might have to get a baseball bat to keep by the bed.
I want more kids, but I'd like them to be a bit further apart. Quite a bit.
7 - I can't decide what we should do for the 4th. D is taking some days off with his flex time. It will probably be spent dragging the kids through houses. heh
2 - Looking at houses with D is an exhausting process. E X H A U S T I N G!!
He is getting on my nerves a little bit. It's not easy to do with kids in tow either. It will be a miracle if we ever find a house.
3 - Is it so wrong to want a decent sized kitchen? Every house we've seen except for ONE, whether brand new or 30 years old - has a SMALL kitchen. I want a big kitchen!!!
4 - I feel like I should really start potty training a little more. d will go if I put him on the potty, but never tells me he needs to go. Is he ready? Is he not ready?
Should I push it? I've gotten a few comments about his age and not being pt'd. booo.
He's only 2!! He won't be three for 9 more months. It's not like he's 6 or something. We have several friends his exact age, and they aren't potty trained either, so I guess there's no reason to push it.
5 - We got a web cam and we're attempting to get the boys' grandparents to get one and sign up for Skype, so we can all talk together online since they're so far away. They are all technologically challenged, so we'll see how it goes.
6 - I took a pregnancy test this morning because I've been feeling a bit "off." It was negative within the time limit. (Thank you!!) I left it on the counter and when I went to throw it away it has a very faint line where the positive would be. BUT, being that it's 4 hours later, I'm guessing it's negative. D made me order a large pack of those cheap internet pgncy tests, and thinks I should test once a week. I probably will, because I'm paranoid about getting pg while breastfeeding and not even knowing about it!
However, he thinks that because I'm breastfeeding, we're safe and he shouldn't have to take any precautions. Hmph. I might have to get a baseball bat to keep by the bed.
I want more kids, but I'd like them to be a bit further apart. Quite a bit.
7 - I can't decide what we should do for the 4th. D is taking some days off with his flex time. It will probably be spent dragging the kids through houses. heh
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
7 things MeMe
Mommy Daisy tagged me for a meme in which you list seven things about yourself.
Here are the rules: Each player starts with 7 random facts/habits about themselves. People who are tagged need to write on their own blog about their seven things, as well as these rules. You need to choose 7 people to get tagged and list their names. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them that they have been tagged and to read your blog!
1. I spend too much time online. It's addicting or something.
2. I hate lukewarm water. It has to be cold or have ice in it. I drink water 99% of the time.
3. Adjusting to 2 kids has been harder than I thought it would be. D wants 4 kids, but it scares me to think we might have 4 boys. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my boys, but I would like to experience a girl too. Plus, I'm already really outnumbered.
4. I've considered going back to work part time, but I don't know what I want to do.
5. When D is out of town, I have to sleep with a light on. Almost 26 and still afraid of the dark.
6. I don't really like our cat. He's dirty and annoying, even though he is really loving. If I had my way, we'd have a cleaner, quieter, inside only cat. Or no cat.
7. Since starting the You On A Diet program, I have SO much more energy. I skipped my walk ONCE and I felt like crap the rest of the day.
Tag - you!! If you want to do it, DO IT!! I don't feel like tagging today. :)
Here are the rules: Each player starts with 7 random facts/habits about themselves. People who are tagged need to write on their own blog about their seven things, as well as these rules. You need to choose 7 people to get tagged and list their names. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them that they have been tagged and to read your blog!
1. I spend too much time online. It's addicting or something.
2. I hate lukewarm water. It has to be cold or have ice in it. I drink water 99% of the time.
3. Adjusting to 2 kids has been harder than I thought it would be. D wants 4 kids, but it scares me to think we might have 4 boys. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my boys, but I would like to experience a girl too. Plus, I'm already really outnumbered.
4. I've considered going back to work part time, but I don't know what I want to do.
5. When D is out of town, I have to sleep with a light on. Almost 26 and still afraid of the dark.
6. I don't really like our cat. He's dirty and annoying, even though he is really loving. If I had my way, we'd have a cleaner, quieter, inside only cat. Or no cat.
7. Since starting the You On A Diet program, I have SO much more energy. I skipped my walk ONCE and I felt like crap the rest of the day.
Tag - you!! If you want to do it, DO IT!! I don't feel like tagging today. :)
Saturday, June 23, 2007
I think God told us to shut up
We were coming back from an Oh-So-Fun grocery and mall shopping trip today when we had a very scary experience. D and I were arguing because he likes to buy the cheapest of everything and I like to buy organic dairy, fruits and veggies and whole grains instead of white. He was ticked because I bought what he labeled "the most expensive of everything" (at Wal-Mart, people!!) and I was ticked because I'm trying to be healthy for ALL of us and change our lifestyle for the better. Anyway, the argument was going nowhere, of course.
d & O were sleeping in the backseat. Suddenly thebastard stupid old man guy in the other lane got aggravated that someone pulled out in front of him and switched into our lane. The only problem was that WE were already IN OUR LANE! He didn't even see us.
D had to swerve hard into the median to keep us from being hit and it was truly terrifying. Thank goodness there was a median and not just another lane of traffic. We would have had nowhere to go!
O woke up screaming. D & I were shaking. d kept sleeping. heh.
I wonder if that was God's way of telling us to shut up already and quit fighting. His way of telling us to appreciate each other instead of arguing. I don't know, but we were certainly quiet the rest of the way home.
d & O were sleeping in the backseat. Suddenly the
D had to swerve hard into the median to keep us from being hit and it was truly terrifying. Thank goodness there was a median and not just another lane of traffic. We would have had nowhere to go!
O woke up screaming. D & I were shaking. d kept sleeping. heh.
I wonder if that was God's way of telling us to shut up already and quit fighting. His way of telling us to appreciate each other instead of arguing. I don't know, but we were certainly quiet the rest of the way home.
Thursday, June 21, 2007
On a lighter note!
We made cookies! We learned about measuring, cutting, numbers, letters and symbols all in the same day. AND.
We got to eat cookies.
:)
Excuse the messy kitchen, but, well - we did just make cookies!
Laying it all out there
After reading this I decided to share the letter I wrote to D.
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D,
Do you even remember why we got married? Once upon a time, it seemed that you found me smart, funny, attractive and fun. Now I just see disappointment in your eyes. With the way I look. The way I clean (or don't clean...), the decisions I make. The hurt when I say no because I'm scared. Scared of the disappointment you must feel when you look at me.
I'm trying my best to be a good wife and mother, but I feel alone in a lot of parenting decisions. Some days I feel stretched so thin that I think I will break. Some days I do.
Then I go to bed with guilt over bad decisions that fall squarely on me.
I am full of worries. Worries that our kids will grow up to hate me. Worries that I'm doing everything wrong. Worries that you have ceased to love me, and you're only here because you made a commitment.
I'm struggling and sometimes I feel like I'm drowning. I just need someone there to throw me a rope. A pat on the back and "You're doing fine!" just aren't cutting it.
I know that there are things you need from me too. Things I'm reluctant to give lately. To be honest, I'm having a really hard time coming to terms with my post-partum body the second time around. I'm heavier than I've ever been while not pregnant and I feel large and saggy and floppy and marked.
I know you agree with this - though you wouldn't ever say so. It's hard to feel sexy when you feel ugly.
I've been working hard to lose weight and I'm down 28 lbs since O's birth, with never a word of encouragement or praise from you unless I fish for it. I want you to be proud of me too!!
I've never felt more disconnected from you then I do now. I know you say it will pass, but I haven't been truly happy for some time.
I love you and there are so many wonderful things about you and about us. I love that you work so hard and I appreciate everything you do for our family. I know I don't say it enough.
It terrifies me to think that our marriage could go bad. Ten years ago I never would have guessed I'd feel so sad and tired. Being your wife and a good mother to our boys is the most important thing in the world to me.
I just need you to understand me. To tell me that you love me. To kiss me or hold my hand without a goal in mind. I need you to appreciate that I, too, make sacrifices for this family - because you and the boys are my whole world.
I no longer want to feel sad and lonely while you walk around oblivious.
I don't want to wake up one morning with no hope that today will be better. I don't want to lose sight of the love that started this thing. Please, help me get back to that place.
Love,
Devan
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D,
Do you even remember why we got married? Once upon a time, it seemed that you found me smart, funny, attractive and fun. Now I just see disappointment in your eyes. With the way I look. The way I clean (or don't clean...), the decisions I make. The hurt when I say no because I'm scared. Scared of the disappointment you must feel when you look at me.
I'm trying my best to be a good wife and mother, but I feel alone in a lot of parenting decisions. Some days I feel stretched so thin that I think I will break. Some days I do.
Then I go to bed with guilt over bad decisions that fall squarely on me.
I am full of worries. Worries that our kids will grow up to hate me. Worries that I'm doing everything wrong. Worries that you have ceased to love me, and you're only here because you made a commitment.
I'm struggling and sometimes I feel like I'm drowning. I just need someone there to throw me a rope. A pat on the back and "You're doing fine!" just aren't cutting it.
I know that there are things you need from me too. Things I'm reluctant to give lately. To be honest, I'm having a really hard time coming to terms with my post-partum body the second time around. I'm heavier than I've ever been while not pregnant and I feel large and saggy and floppy and marked.
I know you agree with this - though you wouldn't ever say so. It's hard to feel sexy when you feel ugly.
I've been working hard to lose weight and I'm down 28 lbs since O's birth, with never a word of encouragement or praise from you unless I fish for it. I want you to be proud of me too!!
I've never felt more disconnected from you then I do now. I know you say it will pass, but I haven't been truly happy for some time.
I love you and there are so many wonderful things about you and about us. I love that you work so hard and I appreciate everything you do for our family. I know I don't say it enough.
It terrifies me to think that our marriage could go bad. Ten years ago I never would have guessed I'd feel so sad and tired. Being your wife and a good mother to our boys is the most important thing in the world to me.
I just need you to understand me. To tell me that you love me. To kiss me or hold my hand without a goal in mind. I need you to appreciate that I, too, make sacrifices for this family - because you and the boys are my whole world.
I no longer want to feel sad and lonely while you walk around oblivious.
I don't want to wake up one morning with no hope that today will be better. I don't want to lose sight of the love that started this thing. Please, help me get back to that place.
Love,
Devan
Monday, June 18, 2007
Survivor!
We survived the weekend, but I needed a pint of Ben & Jerry's to recover. lol
Not good for the weight loss, but it was definitely necessary.
We are so crazy busy, but I'll be back to write more soon. Hopefully.
Not good for the weight loss, but it was definitely necessary.
We are so crazy busy, but I'll be back to write more soon. Hopefully.
Saturday, June 16, 2007
Friday, June 15, 2007
bitchfest
Man, I am a real bitch the last couple of days. Mostly yesterday. And today.
I never feel like this unless it's PMS or pregnancy. Please G*d don't let that be it! I'll take the former if I have to choose!
my inlaws will be here in 30 minutes. They are even babysitting for an hour or two tonight. I'm a nervous wreck.
Plus, O had his first round of shots today and now I'm worried he'll be fussy and I won't be here. MIL is so excited to be babysitting (first time...) that it's not even funny. I can't think about it anymore without having a panic attack. Seriously, WHAT is wrong with me?!
I never feel like this unless it's PMS or pregnancy. Please G*d don't let that be it! I'll take the former if I have to choose!
my inlaws will be here in 30 minutes. They are even babysitting for an hour or two tonight. I'm a nervous wreck.
Plus, O had his first round of shots today and now I'm worried he'll be fussy and I won't be here. MIL is so excited to be babysitting (first time...) that it's not even funny. I can't think about it anymore without having a panic attack. Seriously, WHAT is wrong with me?!
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
forum rant
Sometimes I'm reading a certain message board and it's all I can do not to post SHUT UP! YOU ARE ALL IDIOTS.
QUIT shooting rainbows out your ass at the same people again and again.
QUIT being offended by simple words that you have colored with your perception.
QUIT annoying me in too many ways to count.
QUIT shooting rainbows out your ass at the same people again and again.
QUIT being offended by simple words that you have colored with your perception.
QUIT annoying me in too many ways to count.
TAG!!
Instructions: Remove the blog from the top, move all blogs up one, add yourself to the bottom.
Absolutely Bananas
Smiling Mom
Playgroups are No Place for Children
Scenic Overlook
All D's
What were you doing 10 years ago?
Let's see, I was 15 years old, about to turn 16 in September. If I remember correctly, this was the summer I took driver's Ed and got my learner's permit. In September I met D and we went our first date. Hard to believe we've been together 10 years.
Five Snacks You Enjoy
1. Kashi TLC Oatmeal Dark Chocolate Chip cookies
2. Tropical Chex Mix
3. Almonds
4. Cereal, Kashi again or Kix
5. brownies
Five Songs That You Know All The Lyrics To:
1. The Wiggles Yummy Yummy
2. Elmo's World
3. Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy
4. Twinkle Twinkle
5. The Teletubbies Theme Song
(yes, I am lame. thank you.)
Five Things You Would Do If You Were a Millionaire:
1. Pay off our mortgage.
2. Pay off our car.
3. Buy a much bigger, nicer house.
4. Take a few awesome vacations.
5. Start a kick ass college fund for the kids.
Five bad habits:
1. Biting my fingernails.
2. Putting off housework as long as possible.
3. Getting irritated too quickly with my 2 year old.
4. Listening to telemarketers instead of just hanging up.
5. Feeling guilty. A lot.
Five Things You Would Never Wear Again:
1. Rolled up jeans
2. T-shirt clips
3. leg warmers
4. parachute pants
5. my wedding dress
Five Favorite Toys:
1. The internet/computer
2. The kids
3. The husband
4. The TV
5. The Radio
(man, am I boring or what?!)
Five People to Tag:
1. Jen @ Never Melts http://nevermelts.blogspot.com/
2. M @ Travels with Smacky http://smackytravels.blogspot.com/
3. Mommy Daisy
4. Keri
5. Renae
I don't know why those first 2 links didn't work right...
Absolutely Bananas
Smiling Mom
Playgroups are No Place for Children
Scenic Overlook
All D's
What were you doing 10 years ago?
Let's see, I was 15 years old, about to turn 16 in September. If I remember correctly, this was the summer I took driver's Ed and got my learner's permit. In September I met D and we went our first date. Hard to believe we've been together 10 years.
Five Snacks You Enjoy
1. Kashi TLC Oatmeal Dark Chocolate Chip cookies
2. Tropical Chex Mix
3. Almonds
4. Cereal, Kashi again or Kix
5. brownies
Five Songs That You Know All The Lyrics To:
1. The Wiggles Yummy Yummy
2. Elmo's World
3. Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy
4. Twinkle Twinkle
5. The Teletubbies Theme Song
(yes, I am lame. thank you.)
Five Things You Would Do If You Were a Millionaire:
1. Pay off our mortgage.
2. Pay off our car.
3. Buy a much bigger, nicer house.
4. Take a few awesome vacations.
5. Start a kick ass college fund for the kids.
Five bad habits:
1. Biting my fingernails.
2. Putting off housework as long as possible.
3. Getting irritated too quickly with my 2 year old.
4. Listening to telemarketers instead of just hanging up.
5. Feeling guilty. A lot.
Five Things You Would Never Wear Again:
1. Rolled up jeans
2. T-shirt clips
3. leg warmers
4. parachute pants
5. my wedding dress
Five Favorite Toys:
1. The internet/computer
2. The kids
3. The husband
4. The TV
5. The Radio
(man, am I boring or what?!)
Five People to Tag:
1. Jen @ Never Melts http://nevermelts.blogspot.com/
2. M @ Travels with Smacky http://smackytravels.blogspot.com/
3. Mommy Daisy
4. Keri
5. Renae
I don't know why those first 2 links didn't work right...
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
Monday, June 11, 2007
go me!
Just celebrating my loss a little bit. :)
I've been trying to be healthier for *almost* a month. (May 15th - June 11th)
Here's what I've accomplished:
TOTAL LOSS:
6.4 lbs
9 inches overall
(3 in waist, .5 in each arm, 1.5 in on hips, .5 in one thigh, 1 in other thigh, 2 inches bust/ribcage)
Now, I don't know how much of that would have happened anyway, since I am only 8 weeks pp, but it still feels good to see some progress.
I've been trying to be healthier for *almost* a month. (May 15th - June 11th)
Here's what I've accomplished:
TOTAL LOSS:
6.4 lbs
9 inches overall
(3 in waist, .5 in each arm, 1.5 in on hips, .5 in one thigh, 1 in other thigh, 2 inches bust/ribcage)
Now, I don't know how much of that would have happened anyway, since I am only 8 weeks pp, but it still feels good to see some progress.
Sunday, June 10, 2007
long time, no blog
We've been incredibly busy lately. I'm always thinking, "I want to blog about that. And that!" but by the time I sit down at the computer I've forgotten or I'm nursing and it's harder to type with one hand.
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We've done a lot of legwork on house hunting. We've found ample houses that we like OK, and some we sorta-love but can definitely not afford. We've checked out every new subdivision in the area we're interested in.
We are striving to find a house we love, in a location we like, with a yard that's at least as big as the one we have now, and that will be affordable enough to allow us to keep our current house and rent it out as an investment. It'd be nice if we were still able to eat too.
That is the goal, and we just haven't found it yet. This areas housing market is booming due to BRAC and it's not slowing down anytime soon. I have a feeling that finding The House is going to take us awhile, probably 6 months at least. Possibly longer. I'm really OK with that, because we don't need to sell and when we move I need to know it's right.
So for now we'll keep checking out new things when they come available and hope we find The One. There are two subdivisions going up within a mile of us that haven't even finished the dirt work yet so I'll be excited to see what's in store there.
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We had another birthday party today, d had fun. It was at one of those inflatables places, where they have a huge building full of what I call "air castles" and the kids just love it. D loved it too of course. d had cake and then the party was over, and we got a goody bag on our way out the door. In the goody bag were the things that seem to be standard at every birthday party we've been to this year. Bubbles, stickers, some noise maker thing, sweetarts, suckers, and some other random candy. We had the brilliant idea to go to church after the party since we were out and the times coincided nicely. However, we hadn't considered the ramifications of a CakeCandyParty hopped up two year old. Of course, we didn't hear more than one word of the homily and we found out that the so-called cry room isn't soundproof. How did we obtain this valuable piece of information?
Well, high 2 year old threw a tantrum and the half of the church that was in earshot turned around to see who was killing their child in the cry room. Heh.
It was a little bit of a nightmare, but we got out in one piece. Quickly.
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My inlaws are coming Friday and leaving Sunday.
*EDIT*
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Other news:
D turned 27.
My parents came to visit for a very short day and a half.
I've started to like exercise.
I still can't remember anything.
O baby is a CHUNK! Seriously! I'll get an unofficial weight tomorrow I think, and an official one on Friday.
I'm tired. I've been tired since before d was born. Will this never end?
Still need Father's Day ideas...
_______________________
We've done a lot of legwork on house hunting. We've found ample houses that we like OK, and some we sorta-love but can definitely not afford. We've checked out every new subdivision in the area we're interested in.
We are striving to find a house we love, in a location we like, with a yard that's at least as big as the one we have now, and that will be affordable enough to allow us to keep our current house and rent it out as an investment. It'd be nice if we were still able to eat too.
That is the goal, and we just haven't found it yet. This areas housing market is booming due to BRAC and it's not slowing down anytime soon. I have a feeling that finding The House is going to take us awhile, probably 6 months at least. Possibly longer. I'm really OK with that, because we don't need to sell and when we move I need to know it's right.
So for now we'll keep checking out new things when they come available and hope we find The One. There are two subdivisions going up within a mile of us that haven't even finished the dirt work yet so I'll be excited to see what's in store there.
_______________________
We had another birthday party today, d had fun. It was at one of those inflatables places, where they have a huge building full of what I call "air castles" and the kids just love it. D loved it too of course. d had cake and then the party was over, and we got a goody bag on our way out the door. In the goody bag were the things that seem to be standard at every birthday party we've been to this year. Bubbles, stickers, some noise maker thing, sweetarts, suckers, and some other random candy. We had the brilliant idea to go to church after the party since we were out and the times coincided nicely. However, we hadn't considered the ramifications of a CakeCandyParty hopped up two year old. Of course, we didn't hear more than one word of the homily and we found out that the so-called cry room isn't soundproof. How did we obtain this valuable piece of information?
Well, high 2 year old threw a tantrum and the half of the church that was in earshot turned around to see who was killing their child in the cry room. Heh.
It was a little bit of a nightmare, but we got out in one piece. Quickly.
___________________________
My inlaws are coming Friday and leaving Sunday.
*EDIT*
___________________________
Other news:
D turned 27.
My parents came to visit for a very short day and a half.
I've started to like exercise.
I still can't remember anything.
O baby is a CHUNK! Seriously! I'll get an unofficial weight tomorrow I think, and an official one on Friday.
I'm tired. I've been tired since before d was born. Will this never end?
Still need Father's Day ideas...
Tuesday, June 05, 2007
house hunting
Oh, the headaches and joys of house hunting. As you can imagine, D is a stickler for details, facts and comparisons. The man took 30 minutes to buy a shovel so you can only imagine how long it will take him to come to a decision on this!
The sticking point is that we live in town. Because we live in town, lots sizes are not that large. D wants a very big yard, which of course I would LOVE. (because he mows and I don't...) However, he also loves his less than 10 min commute to work. It's a trade off. Do you want the big yard or the short drive?
Is it possible we might find something in town with a huge yard? Maybe. But not new construction, which is what we're looking at.
We found a floor plan we both fell in love with. I'm sitting here drooling over the kitchen, which has more than twice as many cabinets as mine now. Also, it's bigger. We've got *almost* 1800 sq feet, but part of that is the bonus room upstairs - which we hardly use. This house is all one story, 2625 sq feet. We don't plan on ever needing a bigger house than that.
We're hoping that when we buy it will be our forever home. We love this town and don't plan on moving, though, of course, life happens.
So it IS a big decision. We don't want to compromise the things that are most important to us, such as a large yard. However, I also don't want to listen to D bitch about his 30 min commute for the next 40 years either. He may switch jobs, but I doubt his commute would be less than 30 if we move out of town, no matter where he works.
We've only bought one home. The one we're living in now. While we like it and could stay here for a couple more years potentially, the timing is good now for several reasons that I won't go into.
SO - experienced home buyers - what is the biggest thing we should consider? Any advice?
The sticking point is that we live in town. Because we live in town, lots sizes are not that large. D wants a very big yard, which of course I would LOVE. (because he mows and I don't...) However, he also loves his less than 10 min commute to work. It's a trade off. Do you want the big yard or the short drive?
Is it possible we might find something in town with a huge yard? Maybe. But not new construction, which is what we're looking at.
We found a floor plan we both fell in love with. I'm sitting here drooling over the kitchen, which has more than twice as many cabinets as mine now. Also, it's bigger. We've got *almost* 1800 sq feet, but part of that is the bonus room upstairs - which we hardly use. This house is all one story, 2625 sq feet. We don't plan on ever needing a bigger house than that.
We're hoping that when we buy it will be our forever home. We love this town and don't plan on moving, though, of course, life happens.
So it IS a big decision. We don't want to compromise the things that are most important to us, such as a large yard. However, I also don't want to listen to D bitch about his 30 min commute for the next 40 years either. He may switch jobs, but I doubt his commute would be less than 30 if we move out of town, no matter where he works.
We've only bought one home. The one we're living in now. While we like it and could stay here for a couple more years potentially, the timing is good now for several reasons that I won't go into.
SO - experienced home buyers - what is the biggest thing we should consider? Any advice?
Sunday, June 03, 2007
odds
I read something today that said that said if you have 4 children you are more likely to have 2 of each sex than 4 of the same. Also, you are more likely to have 3 of one sex and one of the other than any of the above mentioned combinations.
Can someone explain this to me please? Math is not my strong suit and I always thought that with every pregnancy you have a 50/50 shot of having a boy or girl.
Help!?
Can someone explain this to me please? Math is not my strong suit and I always thought that with every pregnancy you have a 50/50 shot of having a boy or girl.
Help!?
Mother's Night Out & other stuff
I went to a mother's night out on Friday. It was a lot of fun. We had dinner at Chili's and then caught the 9:00 showing of Knocked Up. If you haven't seen it - it's very funny!
Be forewarned, there is a crowning, hairless vagina so don't let it surprise you. And if you have teenagers, send them with their date.
It's birth control at it's finest.
In other news, we've spent the weekend looking at houses. We are seriously considering building. The real estate market in our area is booming and while we like the house we're in, it's feeling rather cramped. We haven't made a final decision yet, but we have found a nice, small subdivision that backs up to a wildlife preserve with floor plans that are almost twice the size of our current house. Of course, the mortgage is almost twice as much too.
It's exciting, but my husband takes his sweet time making decisions. When I say he takes his time, I mean he drags it out until I want to gouge out my eyeballs with the pencil he's continuously sharpening to make his never ending lists of questions, pros, cons, comparisons and ways to drive his wife crazy.
Don't get me wrong, I don't take these decisions lightly. I like to make informed decisions, but I don't need to go over the same facts two thousand times before I do so. Then again, he is an engineer...
He's been known to take 30 minutes to pick out a shovel that's sole purpose is poop scooping. Sadly, that is not an exaggeration.
We are also starting potty training with d. I'm not forcing the issue, but I can't say I don't want him potty trained. 2 in diapers is not the most fun I've ever had.
For months now, d will pee if we set him on the potty. However, he never tells us when he has to go or even tells us if he's dirty. The past few weeks though, he's started telling me as soon as he's gone and sometimes before. So, we bought a bag of skittles and every time he pees on the potty he gets one. He gets two if he poos, which he's only done once. I don't know why he gets 2, it just seems like more work so there you go.
We don't ask him as often as we should, and he often says "No" because he's too busy. That's ok, I know this won't happen overnight. It's a start though. Maybe by his next birthday he'll be out of diapers. I hope so anyway, considering that's not for another 10 months.
O is getting chunky!! By my calculations he's about 14 lbs now. He'll be officially weighed at his next well baby, which is on the 15th. Which, coincidentally, is the same day my inlaws get into town. Joy!!
Thinking about it is giving me knots in my stomach, so I'm not going to think about it anymore today. It's inevitable so I might as well ignore it till the date gets here.
BIL and C went to a beach this weekend and I was so hoping to get a call saying that he proposed. What's more romantic than the beach?! It's a few days after their 3 year anniversary as well, so good timing. Alas, no call.
I know it's coming soon though! I have a feeling.
D should be home from his rugby meeting soon so I guess I should go make something resembling dinner. Also, d is watching Sesame Street and it's rolling the final credits so that means I have exactly 20 seconds till I have a helper on the keyboard.
D & A - Happy Birthday!! 27!!
Be forewarned, there is a crowning, hairless vagina so don't let it surprise you. And if you have teenagers, send them with their date.
It's birth control at it's finest.
In other news, we've spent the weekend looking at houses. We are seriously considering building. The real estate market in our area is booming and while we like the house we're in, it's feeling rather cramped. We haven't made a final decision yet, but we have found a nice, small subdivision that backs up to a wildlife preserve with floor plans that are almost twice the size of our current house. Of course, the mortgage is almost twice as much too.
It's exciting, but my husband takes his sweet time making decisions. When I say he takes his time, I mean he drags it out until I want to gouge out my eyeballs with the pencil he's continuously sharpening to make his never ending lists of questions, pros, cons, comparisons and ways to drive his wife crazy.
Don't get me wrong, I don't take these decisions lightly. I like to make informed decisions, but I don't need to go over the same facts two thousand times before I do so. Then again, he is an engineer...
He's been known to take 30 minutes to pick out a shovel that's sole purpose is poop scooping. Sadly, that is not an exaggeration.
We are also starting potty training with d. I'm not forcing the issue, but I can't say I don't want him potty trained. 2 in diapers is not the most fun I've ever had.
For months now, d will pee if we set him on the potty. However, he never tells us when he has to go or even tells us if he's dirty. The past few weeks though, he's started telling me as soon as he's gone and sometimes before. So, we bought a bag of skittles and every time he pees on the potty he gets one. He gets two if he poos, which he's only done once. I don't know why he gets 2, it just seems like more work so there you go.
We don't ask him as often as we should, and he often says "No" because he's too busy. That's ok, I know this won't happen overnight. It's a start though. Maybe by his next birthday he'll be out of diapers. I hope so anyway, considering that's not for another 10 months.
O is getting chunky!! By my calculations he's about 14 lbs now. He'll be officially weighed at his next well baby, which is on the 15th. Which, coincidentally, is the same day my inlaws get into town. Joy!!
Thinking about it is giving me knots in my stomach, so I'm not going to think about it anymore today. It's inevitable so I might as well ignore it till the date gets here.
BIL and C went to a beach this weekend and I was so hoping to get a call saying that he proposed. What's more romantic than the beach?! It's a few days after their 3 year anniversary as well, so good timing. Alas, no call.
I know it's coming soon though! I have a feeling.
D should be home from his rugby meeting soon so I guess I should go make something resembling dinner. Also, d is watching Sesame Street and it's rolling the final credits so that means I have exactly 20 seconds till I have a helper on the keyboard.
D & A - Happy Birthday!! 27!!
Saturday, June 02, 2007
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