I mentioned a personality test in my last post. Here is the link:
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp
I read about it on one of your blogs awhile back; I'm sorry I can't remember which one! The results were very interesting and VERY true for D and a lot of it was true for me. I was borderline with 2 personalities and they both had some truth in them for me.
Check out the link, and take the short-ish quiz and see what it says! D and I were highly entertained.
Here are snippets of our results, just in case you are interested:
Me - ISFJ
Introverted/Sensing/Feeling/Judging
Guardian Portrait of the Protector
Parts of the description that stood out to me:
* above all by their desire to serve others, their
"need to be needed." In extreme cases, this need is so strong that standard give-and-take relationships are deeply unsatisfying to them
* ISFJs are often
unappreciated, at work, home, and play. Ironically, because they prove over and over that they can be relied on for their loyalty and unstinting, high-quality work, those around them often take them for granted--even take advantage of them.
* hurt by being treated like doormats, they are often unwilling to toot their own horns about their accomplishments because they feel that although they deserve more credit than they're getting, it's somehow wrong to want any sort of reward for doing work
* uncomfortable in supervisory roles
* capable of forming strong loyalties, but these are personal rather than institutional loyalties
* their families are the centers of their lives. ISFJs are extremely warm and demonstrative within the family circle--and often possessive of their loved ones, as well.
* concerned with being
"nice"
* take infinite trouble over meals, gifts, celebrations, etc., for their loved ones
* have
a few, close friends. They are
extremely loyal to these, and are ready to provide emotional and practical support at a moment's notice. (However, like most Fs they
hate confrontation; if you get into a fight, don't expect them to jump in after you. You can count on them, however, run and get the nearest authority figure.)
* The last Guardian type is the Protector (ISFJ). This is the Guardian
least likely to seek positions of leadership since they may feel uncomfortable in the lime-light. They are often seen as the people who do whatever is necessary to keep things running smoothly. They do their best to prevent problems.
* (this part is SO ME!) The Protector is the most likely to become excessively worried. Their highest skills come from preventing problems, and to do that one must think about what might go wrong and prevent it. But too great an overload can trigger excessive worry. Until they release some of their need for control, they will experience high stress. Rest, good nutrition, and treating themselves to peace and quiet will go a long way towards healing their stress.
Very interesting stuff! I don't know why these tests fascinate me...
Darren's results: INTJ
Introverted/iNtuitive/Thinking/Judging
Rational Portrait of the Mastermind
* an aura of "definiteness", of
self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age. When it comes to their own areas of expertise -- and INTJs can have several -- they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don't know.
* perfectionists
* career choices are in the sciences and engineering, but they can be found wherever a combination of intellect and incisiveness are required
* Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel. While they are capable of caring deeply for others (usually a select few), and are willing to spend a great deal of time and effort on a relationship, the knowledge and self-confidence that make them so successful in other areas can suddenly abandon or mislead them in interpersonal situations.
* do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation
* Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs
really want people to make sense. :-) This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many Fs -- only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness. (this explains a lot... lol)
* All Rationals are good at planning operations, but Masterminds are head and shoulders above all the rest in contingency planning. Complex operations involve many steps or stages, one following another in a necessary progression, and Masterminds are naturally able to grasp how each one leads to the next, and to prepare alternatives for difficulties that are likely to arise any step of the way. Trying to anticipate every contingency, Masterminds never set off on their current project without a Plan A firmly in mind, but they are always prepared to switch to Plan B or C or D if need be.
(Is this why I can't beat him in chess?!)
* Masterminds are rare, comprising no more than, say, one percent of the population
* do not feel bound by established rules and procedures
* In their careers, Masterminds usually rise to positions of responsibility, for they work long and hard and are dedicated in their pursuit of goals, sparing neither their own time and effort nor that of their colleagues and employees.
(That explains the workaholic in him...)
* Masterminds tend to be much more definite and self-confident than other Rationals, having usually developed a very strong will. Decisions come easily to them; in fact, they can hardly rest until they have things settled and decided. But before they decide anything, they must do the research. Masterminds are highly theoretical, but they insist on looking at all available data before they embrace an idea, and they are suspicious of any statement that is based on shoddy research, or that is not checked against reality.
(Um, yeah... try making any purchase with him. He will research it to death.)
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Most Rationals do not express the range of emotions other types do because they keep their emotions tightly in check, usually showing them only to those closest to them. Getting a Rational to open up and show their tender side can be a great challenge, one many women find intriguing.
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least likely types to remember important days, such as anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays. However, they do tend to be steadfast, being among the most committed. (well, he may forget to give gifts, (he does) but at least he's committed. I'll take it!)
* As a teen, he was slow to mature. He was interested in girls, but was very awkward around them. He also felt that most girls were just plain silly, so he did not date. ...he was actively looking for a mate but wasn't quite sure how to go about it. ...once married.... he feels very relieved to have successfully cleared this life hurdle.
(Darren says this completely describes him! haha!)
and read a book, or even better, download a new one from Amazon. 
